Colin Kaepernick Commercial

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Nike came out with a new commercial that will, ironically, air during the opening of the NFL season featuring the controversial figure of Colin Kaepernick. Kaepernick has caused a stir by protesting racism in America by kneeling during the national anthem. How dare he! Hear my thoughts on it in this hour-long podcast below!

 

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Acknowledgment

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We all want acknowledgement for what we can do. This is really obvious in our workplaces. We do our work we want to be acknowledged by our co-workers, by our bosses, in our paychecks, the size of our office etc. Also, we parade this acknowledgement in our personal lives with the car we drive, the size of our house, the clothes we wear. We have a desire to be good at something, to be the best at anything. Either we tell the best stories or we are the funniest or the best at a video game or a sport… whatever our thing is, we want to be known.

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Well that’s not so bad, is it? All we want is recognition for the things we do well and for the contribution we make to society. It is a natural desire we have. The question it leaves us with, however, is why do we need to be acknowledged? Do we really need recognition for the things that we do? The answer is a very clear and resounding NO! We don’t need it, we want it.

It goes deeper than that though. It is not just that we are whiny children who want someone to notice them. What we really want is not just recognition for what we do, but for who we are. That is something very different. The truth is when my Dad does acknowledge me for my skills on the baseball diamond, it feels empty. When he wrote me a letter for a retreat and he talked so much about how proud he was when he watches me hit a baseball, all I could think was “So what? What if I lost my arm in an accident and could never swing a bat again? Would you be proud then?”

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At the root of it is an insecurity that eats away at us from the inside out. Thinking about all this I realized that I have this deep, dark voice that repeats the same thing… “If they only knew who you really are deep down, they wouldn’t love you.” It gives me chills to put that voice in writing. I don’t know if I believe in a personified Satan, maybe Satan is just that thought lurking in the shadows of my unconscious. If you read that line and it did not strike a chord with you, then I am seriously scared for your humanity! That line is fundamental to who I am. I’ve been running away from that very sentence my entire life.

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The solution is always the trickiest part, isn’t it? This is why I think vulnerability is the key to happiness. I spent a lot of my life trying to be perfect, especially in a moral sense. I was so hard on myself and I used every ounce of energy I had to do the right thing. I didn’t swear, I never did drugs, I never smoked, I didn’t even drink alcohol until I was 24. I tried to be a kind, sincere, compassionate person to everyone and I always felt like I was a step behind because of it. The truth though was that I was hiding from that voice. If I did everything right, no one would find out who I really was. No one would know the dark thoughts I had, that we all have. When you are sitting in a quiet place and a baby starts crying. All you can think is “Why isn’t someone making that stop!” even though we might not say it, or at least not like that!

Vulnerability is admitting our flaws. It is saying to the world, look at me, this is who I really am! That is the most terrifying thing in the world to do. It’s like walking down the street naked, completely stripped of all the things that we are ashamed of. It is difficult to do that for all of us. For men I know, it means crying in front of people. It means admitting that you don’t know the answer, or you don’t understand. Maybe it just means asking questions. There is no one more courageous than someone who asks a “dumb” question. It means being goofy, embarrassing yourself, sometimes maybe even on purpose. It means stop pretending like you actually enjoy the stupid crap that other people say they enjoy (even though they don’t) just to fit in. All of this is much easier said than done of course. It starts small though and then it grows. God knows I am not practising what I preach, in fact, I think I have further to go than most people. I suppose recognizing it is only the first step, living it is the challenge.

 

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Dave Chappelle

*Language warning* I don’t usually swear but I use a swear word to quote Dave Chappelle, if you don’t like it, don’t read it. Also Dave Chappelle’s comedy is very offensive, again if you can’t handle it don’t watch! You’ve been warned!

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Dave Chappelle has another new Netflix special out and they are pretty dark. Now Dave Chappelle has a tendency to talk about some pretty heavy subject matter. Race being his main component of his performance. I love Dave Chappelle because he barely does comedy… most of his material isn’t funny because it’s too real to be comedy. In “The Bird Revelation” he tells a story about a pimp who uses fear and devastating deception to trick one of the prostitutes into sticking around instead of leaving. He suggests that this is an analogy for how Comedy Central treated him while doing “Chappelle Show”. I’m guessing he legally is not allowed to say that this is what happened, so this is a clever way for him to get the truth out there. It’s scary if he is legally bounded not to say what happened, it shows how much power an organization like Comedy Central has.

However, the real kicker is when he calls this analogy the “Capitalist Manifesto”. He’s not just talking about a pimp or Comedy Central but the entire system we live under. First, what does he mean when he calls this analogy the Capitalist manifesto? I would suggest that he is trying to say that we are all prostitutes. We sell our bodies out to corporations who use fear and deception to keep us coming back even after we have reached our mental limit. He compares the pimp to McDonald’s and even says this explicitly, “Why do you think most of us work 9 – 5? Because 9 – 6 might kill a bitch.”

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In the book “Pimp” by Iceberg Slim, The more experienced pimp says to Iceberg, beat the prostitute and then draw her a bath and give her some pills. He says she will be so grateful that you fixed her, that she’ll forget you’re the one who beat her. Earlier in the show, Dave talks about how every time someone stands up for something good we as a society beat them down. Colin Kaepernick stands up for justice and gets crucified, Chappelle even makes a suggestion towards what happened to Jesus. You don’t have to agree with everything someone says, but we should admire people willing to stand up even if we disagree. Chappelle also says, and repeats with emphasis, that the best prostitute (or “bottom bitch”) keeps the other ones in line. This means that in a Capitalist society, the people who make it to the top are the ones who keep the rest in line. AKA the more money you make, the more you work for the system. There is even a sense of Stockholm Syndrome going on here.

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Isn’t this the story of our society today? Donald Trump has to come to mind, doesn’t he? He is a rich, “successful” businessman that the average person looks up to and even idolizes. Who doesn’t want tall buildings with their name in gold on it? People admire him and his ability to make money so much that they elect him as president. This makes it official that he is in charge of keeping everyone else in line. In the analogy, the Capitalist system is the pimp, Donald Trump is “bottom bitch” and we are all the other bitches. That is a hard pill to swallow, but it’s true.

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The pimp in Iceberg’s story is trying to control a woman that he has no control over. He uses fear and deception to get her to work for him just a little bit longer and just a little bit harder. This is Capitalism. We work for society, get paid as little as possible to work as long and hard as possible to make money in order to buy things because that stimulates the economy which is good for society. Great! Now we can work harder and buy more stuff and it just keeps going in a vicious cycle for no reason with no one ever wining.

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The crazy thing is, we blame the government or we blame individual people, but it’s no one person or one group of people’s fault. We can blame society or Capitalism, but these aren’t actual things, these are concepts. They are concepts that we invented as an experiment to try to make the world work. The experiment has failed. No one is winning. Even the bottom bitch is still a bitch to this system which is pimping us out, even though it’s nothing! It is as if we created our own slavery to live under with no ruler, no pimp, no one to blame but our lack of courage to try something new!

The good thing is that we can change this. If we created it, we can break it and try something new. We hand our sovereignty over because we are afraid of what real freedom looks like. This is what Christ really came to offer, true freedom. True detachment from the system. Jesus said something significant about money and Capitalism, “Give to Caesar what is Caesar” (Matt. 12:17). We need to break this vicious cycle, let’s find a new way.

 

“‘Fallen! Fallen is Babylon the Great!’
    She has become a dwelling for demons
and a haunt for every impure spirit,
    a haunt for every unclean bird,
    a haunt for every unclean and detestable animal.
 For all the nations have drunk
    the maddening wine of her adulteries.
The kings of the earth committed adultery with her,
    and the merchants of the earth grew rich from her excessive luxuries.” Rev. 18:2-3

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Breaking the Cycle

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I watched this fantastic Documentary called Breaking the Cycle on Netflix. (The trailer for it is above.) It is a comparison of the Maximum Security Prison system in Norway to the United States. The movie is about how in Norway prisoners are isolated from society, including their family and friends, and that is the punishment. In American Prisons, the prisoners are treaty poorly. Prisoners are treated, even right now in Canada, as a lesser human being than the average citizen. Even after they leave prison and have served their time, experienced their punishment, it is hard to find a job that will hire them. There are people who think that prisoners have it too easy, they can watch TV, get exercise, eat three meals etc. but what good does it do to take any of that away from them? How does making prison more miserable help society?

Maybe you think that if we make something as terrible as possible then people will do everything they can, not to go there. We know this does not work. I can re-quote the statistics from the movie of recidivism: when people who serve their time in prison go back repeatedly, but I don’t think I need to. The idea is that some people are just bad people. They were born bad, they are bad now and they will always be bad. We know, however, that everyone has reoccurring bad habits. We know we do things that are bad for us and yet we keep going back to it. Maybe for you, it’s smoking, overeating, laziness, or even media! (You are reading this blog….) Breaking a habit is hard but when it comes to prison, breaking a habit becomes crucial to society.

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You might also respond to this by saying, “However bad they are treated in prison it is not bad enough.” If someone murdered someone, deep down we know there is no justice. You can never give back a life that you’ve taken. This is where forgiveness and compassion come in. To say to someone who has had a loved one murdered, “you need to forgive” is hard. The thing is, forgiveness heals the person who forgives not the murderer, once you can let go of that pain it heals you. As the bible says when we show kindness to people who don’t deserve it from us, “it is like we shovel burning coals on their head.” (Proverbs 25:22) It’s painful to be filled with hate and have someone show you compassion. Forgiveness creates the pain of healing. 

This video is one of the most amazing stories of forgiveness that not enough people have heard about. It’s easy to forget that this story is not fiction, this really happened and it can happen in every one of our lives.

The bottom line is that these people, good or bad, are going to serve their time in prison and come back into society. Helping them become better functioning members of that society isn’t even compassion, it’s just common sense. I believe that when people are treated a certain way, that they accept their role and act out that role accordingly. So if you treat someone as if they know everything, they will become a know it all. If you treat someone as a delinquent, they will act like delinquents act. Therefore, when we treat people in prison as if they are an animal, they will accept the role and integrate it into their very being.

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You might respond to this, “Good! They deserve to be treated like the dogs that they are!” In the last blog, I stressed that there are no bad people, only good people who make bad decisions. If we treat people as a human being first, and judge him or her for their actions second, I think the world would be a better place. I’m not saying to ignore or dismiss their actions either. People released from prison have served their time. They have been separated from society and they don’t need further humiliation and punishment. What they need is the opportunity for change. We give them that by focusing on rehabilitation in and after prison. This comes down to one principle; love your neighbour as yourself. When the Pharisees ask Jesus who is their neighbour, his answer is any person who is “other”.

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The Motivation of Fear: Elf on a Shelf

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I think we see this use of fear as a motivator in so many different ways.  Last blog I talked about using fear to coerce people into doing the right thing. Today I want to talk about using fear as a motivator at Christmas. In other cultures, people use some really dark and twisted things to scare kids into being good. In Austria, Bavaria, Croatia, Czech Republic, Hungary, Slovakia, Slovenia, South Tyrol and parts of Northern Italy Krumpus is a thing. Ya, the half-goat/half-demon thing they made a horror movie about. His job is to punish children by drowning them, eating them or taking them to Hell… terrifying. Less scary but far more racist is Black Pete! Or Zwarte Pete is a white person dressed in blackface with painfully racist stereotypically black features such as big red lips, nappy hair and gold hooped earrings. Black Pete is a helper to Santa but also punishes children, at least in Dutch culture, by bringing them back to Spain… sorry Spain.

In North America, we think these traditions may be weird at best but more likely, we think they are horrible. My self-reflective question is, are we any different? Enter the infamous Elf on a Shelf! At our office at the church in London, we had one named Jacques. Let’s start by admitting the Elf is creepy! He watches you to see if you are good and then he moves around at night but when you see him he never moves…  ahem, Trilogy of Terror, Chucky, Annabelle, Night of the Living Dummies…. need I go on, terrifying! So the truth is we are no better than the European countries who have basically just different versions of the same idea, scare your child into being good.

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Here is where the pill gets even harder to swallow. Isn’t it the same idea with our beloved Santa Claus too? I mean, he’s not going to steal children and drown them but a lump of coal? In the end, it is just more fear to coerce kids to be good. The real issue though is what we talked about in my last blog. We use God for this purpose as well. A man in the sky who can see everything you do to make sure you are being good with eternal punishment in Hell if you are not good. An Atheist might say, “Oh all of these are just myths for children that we don’t need to listen to once we are an adult.” However, let’s not throw out the baby with the bathwater. It is logical to think that there is more than just our physical world and therefore reasonable to believe in God.

Now I have no problem with Elf on a Shelf, I think it’s a great and fun family thing to do. Same with Santa and obviously God… other cultures, you do you. The point is that we are teaching children a terrible message if we use any of these figures in this way. We teach them that they are only as valuable as what they do. We teach them conditional love rather than unconditional love. The message is “if you are good, you will get a gold star.” Ask Job from the Bible how that works out! I think this perpetuates the Utilitarian principle that you are what you do. If you commit crimes, you are a criminal. If you don’t do well at school, you are dumb. It becomes an identity and an identity is hard to shake once it is ingrained. I tell kids all the time, there are NO bad people. People are all inherently good, but some people choose to do bad actions. Once you define a person as something, once that label is associated with who they are as a human being, how can they ever act without it influencing them?

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